WhatsGoingOn.Org - A Solution for a Better Life

Do you have problems? Do these problems seem to linger and never go away? Does your life feel unbearable from time to time? Are you upset that life cannot be better than what it is? One possible reason is that you are too self consumed or too self focused. I deal with this struggle on a daily basis, as well as most of the people around me. It seems that most of our anxiety, anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness and whatever emotional or mental hang-ups we have, stem from a sense of thinking about what we deserve in this life or what we currently lack here.

So, let’s think about it. What are we entitled to here on earth? Are we promised anything here or is there a perfect formula for a perfect life? Who in the world sold us the lie that we should at least have this much, or this is the minimum standard for life to be acceptable? We say it and hear it every day. Why is this happening to me? My job sucks. My wife is out of control. My husband is an ass. I don’t know what to do with these kids. This traffic is horrible. I hate my life. I wish I could win the lottery. I think if I do this, this and this, life is going to get better. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah! When I catch myself behind these words, I realize that I am way too self focused. I like quick fixes in life and struggle with God’s timing in things. When I put in my efforts to do something right, I want results. I want them my way. When I don’t get them, I get peeved. Then, usually, instead of taking a deep breath and committing the situation to God and His timing or reflecting on the situation to see if I could do a better job or assessing a realistic time frame for my desired results, I take my annoyance and turn it into disappointment. Then this disappointment quickly leads to anger, bitterness, resentment, anxiety, depression, constant complaining or any number of sins. Everyone’s life could be better. There is no one with the perfect life here on earth. God wants us to use our talents to do our job in living better lives. But let’s be realistic. Only a few things are really in our control. In these few things, we must be responsible in doing our best. However, most things are completely out of our control. These are things we just need to accept for the time being, and lift up to God for deliverance. We cannot force people to treat us a certain way. It’s their choice. We can’t force our spouse to love us a certain way, it would not be real. We can however, communicate to them our needs and possible solutions for meeting our needs and hope that they will respond either out of love or sacrifice. But being too caught up in how others treat us or how our environment is lacking or how our situation needs improving will inevitably lead to disappointment and frustration. We need to let it go. What? We need to let go of our expectations from others or from a situation getting better. We have to stop saying to ourselves, “Only if I had this or only if this was better or only if…” We must not let selfish desire dictate our happiness. We cannot substitute happiness the way God intended us to have it with the happiness prescribed by the world or the happiness formula we invented in our mind. So what is the solution? We must deny ourselves and take up the Cross. We must love others as we love ourselves and since we cannot truly measure how much we indulge in self worship and self love, we must try to love others more than we love ourselves. God never promised us wealth, health and happiness on this earth. God never said that all your relationships would be perfect. God didn’t say He would spare you the daily encounters with the idiots in your life. He does, however, want us to reflect on our own idiotic ways and repent. Perfection will come when we get to heaven, but until then we have some unfinished work here on earth. In the midst of the weeds we are the wheat growing for the harvest. We must be the light and the salt of this world. We must do what God has called us to do and stop worrying about making life perfect here on earth. We think we cannot handle much and life is unbearable; it is only because we are so self-focused. God has given us enough to handle all that we have and He will keep giving us what we need day by day, as long as we seek to do His will first. He not only wants us to handle and accept our problems, but in the midst of these imperfections He wants us to do the right thing and live life in thankfulness. There is much that God wants us to do. We can either choose to live for ourselves complaining, anxious and bitter or we can choose to live for Christ. God’s way always works and His timing is perfect. So day by day choose God’s way and let’s do our best to sacrifice and serve Christ and others and deny our immediate desires. Our cup will be filled in wonderful ways we cannot understand when we seek His Kingdom first.


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